Even though you said you were weren’t weirded out by their secret stuffed animal collection, the fact that you’re sleeping with your back toward your new partner might indicate otherwise…
Yep, your body language says way more than you think—even when you’re sleeping. The way couples position themselves in bed can “speak to how they look to one another for support, how they lean on each other literally and emotionally, and how comfortable they are with closeness and intimacy,” says relationship expert, Jane Greer, Ph.D., and author of What About Me?
Of course, for some people, being a human pillow for someone isn’t always worth waking up soaked in sweat, so cuddling might be a no-go. And if you’re someone who prioritizes comfort, that doesn’t mean you won’t still dream of your partner in a slow-motion montage.
But for those who are into touchy-feely sleepy time, here’s what your cuddling position might say about you:
If you and your partner sleep in this cuddling position it means you see eye-to-eye. Greer says couples who spoon are “merging their bodies together as one, so you may see them dressing alike or enjoying the same things, there’s a certain similarity” to them.
2. Head On Chest
This protective sleeping arrangement “can speak to one person feeling very safe and secure in their partner’s arms,” Greer says. “They feel their partner can help support them, both physically and emotionally.” When it comes to personal issues and difficulties, this person can lean on their partner.