These are things to be conscious of, especially if you’re feeling disconnected from your partner, or have reason to suspect them of cheating. “If you can recognize the signs early, you can more quickly strengthen the relationship to avoid or heal from an affair,” Herring says. Here are a few social media habits experts say might mean your partner is starting to stray, as well as what to do about it.
1. They’re Always Interacting With People You Barely Know
When you’re in a relationship, you tend to meet each other’s friends — or at the very least hear stories about them. So if your partner’s name is constantly popping up in threads with people you’ve never heard about, take note.
“Why is your significant other engaging a random person you’ve never heard of that they don’t know from work or their friend group?” This can be cause for concern, David Bennett, a certified counselor and relationship expert at The Popular Man, tells Bustle. If they’ve never mentioned the person before, and yet it seems like they know each other well, there may be a reason why they’re being a bit secretive.
2. They Ignore Your Tags And Comments
While interacting constantly on social media is not necessary for a healthy relationship, do take notice if they are not responding to you at all, and especially so if they ask you to limit the amount of photos you share, breakup coach Lee Wilson, tells Bustle. “Whereas this is a good privacy practice anyway, if [they have] never cared before,” he says, “that could be a clue of guilt.”
3 . One Name In Particular Keeps Popping Up
It isn’t a big deal if your partner likes someone else’s posts, or if they have a running commentary with a friend or an ex. But if it seems a bit flirty, and it’s making you uncomfortable, do speak up.
“Usually you will see a pattern of a particular [person] liking your [partner’s] photos or commenting on any status updates,” Jennifer Seiter, a relationship expert, tells Bustle. “If you see something like this it is best to talk to your partner immediately and approach [them] in a calm, non-threatening manner to lessen the likelihood of cheating before it starts.”